I wonder why 'Singing Teachers' teach this very sad song, to little children in school.π€
I remember learning this song way back in my 'School Singing Classes'. As I listened to this version of the song today, I heard the singer Daniel O'Donnell mention, that he also learnt this song, as a child.
So, I guess in many parts of the world, this very melancholic song, about a 'Blind Orphan Child', is strangely taught to little kids. Probably because, it has a simple and easy to learn melody; or maybe, the message that the song conveys, has a very valuable lesson, that young children could be taught, through a song.πΆ
This song, somehow means more to me now, in recent years, than it did before...and often, during this month of May, when my parents celebrated their 'Wedding Anniversary', or just whenever I think of them and miss them, a little more than other days actually; this song starts playing in my mind, almost on its own. I guess it's because, I 'Feel their Absence', at certain times and in some situations, even more.
A couple of months ago, someone said to me, "But you have lots of friends, don't you? I'm sure you 'Talk to them', and 'Share how you Feel' with them, often."
In response to that, I only smiled.π
I guess, that's the main problem.π€·π»♀️
When over a period of years, you consciously choose to 'push the whole world away', and live in the safety of your 'own cocoon', away from the 'ceaseless questioning' and (maybe genuine) but often inquisitive 'concern' of others.
When you only make 'occasional brief appearances', at places and times, that you choose to.
...Everyone conveniently presumes, that 'You Have Someone Else', who is 'Always Around'.
Family thinks you have Friends,
Friends think you have Family.
Cousins think you have Colleagues,
Colleagues think you have Cousins.
Parishioners think you have Neighbours,
Neighbours think you have Parishioners.
...Everybody constantly assures you that 'We're always there'; but everyone also just concludes, that 'someone else must be there'.π
Of course, a few occasionally check in, to see if you're doing alright; but because you've chosen to be 'distant and keep to yourself' for a long time, the frequency at which everyone asks, gradually reduces.
I'm not complaining; because I also always stay away, since I prefer not to intrude on, or to be a 'dampner' on other people's joyful moments, by going for an occasion, and then not participating in all the 'Fun'.
And I also know, that in this world, where almost everyone lives a very stressful, constantly busy life; the primary focus of every person is always, 'Their Own'.
Sadly, what I've realised, is that the only people who are truly 'Your Own', or who 'You Truly Belong To', are your 'Own Immediate Family'.✨️
Everyone else, has their own children, their own parents, their own husband or wife, their own siblings, their own somebody; and even if you are 'Close Friends or even Extended Family', you still always come 'After Them' to everyone, no matter how close you may be.
...and that is the 'Harsh Reality of Life', which you only realise, when you lose your 'Own Family'.
Just like the song, in a sense, you do feel completely 'Orphaned', and a lot like 'Nobody's Child', when the only people who were really 'Your Own', and the ones that you truly 'Belonged To', journey on to the next life.π’
...and even if your loved ones, often make attempts to 'Re-connect', or to 'Include You', in the things they do together; you still choose to stay away. They often, don't understand your reasons, and probably think that you're being unreasonably aloof, for way too long.
I guess, most people (even family and friends), only realise how you really feel, when they experience emotions like 'Loss, Emptiness and Loneliness', themselves.
Every person finds 'their own way', to deal and cope with 'Grief'. What works for one person, may not work for someone else; because each of us is created differently, and we are all unique. So, no method or technique is right or wrong.
Some people, choose to get over how they feel and to 'Drown Out the Sorrow', by mixing and mingling constantly, or by burying themselves in their work. Others, prefer to become more 'Reclusive'; and stay in their own 'quiet corner'.
To the more reclusive ones, even happy things like picnics, parties and holidays, are constant harsh and painful 'Reminders', of the way 'Life used to be', when your 'Happy Family Portrait' was Complete. So, they choose to remain in their lonely, yet safe shell; because seeing others in their family, with each of their own parents or kids, just painfully reminds them, of what is 'missing', in their own life.π
An old school friend, who is a Psychologist and a Counsellor, used to read some of my posts; and she once asked me, if I would speak about the things I write in my posts, at a session for people dealing with 'Grief'. She felt, that my sharings, might help so many others, to try and make sense, of the feelings of 'Loss and Emptiness', that they were dealing with.
Of course, I refused; because 'Talking about what I feel' with actual people, even close Friends and Family; has never been something that comes easily to me. I could probably 'Write a Book', or maybe even 'Ten Volumes', filled with my deepest feelings and emotions; but those same 'Words', would just lie buried within, if I had to actually talk to someone, face to face.
That's probably the reason why, I'll forever feel like 'Nobody's Child', even though I have many, many Friends and Family members, who are 'Genuinely Concerned' and who 'Care'.❤️
...That 'Emptiness and that Vacant Space', will still remain; because the 'Words', that flow like an overflowing river, when I write it all down; refuse to make an appearance, and prefer to hide in the dark shadows of my heart, whenever there is a living, breathing human being, in front of me, with whom to 'Share'.π€✍️
